How social media revived the bitchy queen stereotype
The ‘bitchy queen’ is back. This homophobic and scathing but self-loathing stereotype has risen from the dead thanks to cancel
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Author: David Toussaint
Gay men and the eternal search for the next better thing
When it comes to picking a partner, are gay men too superficial or too picky? With Valentine’s Day around the
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This New Year, I’m taking the media out of the social
Social media has all but killed gay social life. You may disagree, but if you’re over 40 you’ll want to
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Here’s what happened for older gay men in 2022
Looking back on all that happened in the wider culture in 2022, where did things land for gay men of
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My hot take on the gay male beauty myth
This morning started out not much different from the other days of my adult life. I woke up, greeted my
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What’s up with sex for gay men over forty?
With more apps, and more awareness than ever before, dating for gay men has not exactly evolved. With all the
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Is Uncoupled unwatchable? It’s complicated…
If you’ve read any of my previous work, you probably know that I’ve been pretty much screaming from the rooftops
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When did gays stop having fun?
If you’ve watched the new Queer As Folk, the third incarnation of the uber-gay TV series, you know there’s a
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The gay male abandonment issue—mine, that is
The mental and emotional issues gay men deal with go beyond homophobia. Here’s one. I’ve never forgotten the time I
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Pride in the name of less love
Pride season is here and the question has shifted from Do we need Pride to something far more serious. It
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How I learned to live by understanding death
I’ve been encircled by death since I was five years old. That’s the age I was when my father killed
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Why the penis is going mainstream
Male nudity is everywhere these days, and here’s why it’s a good thing. Many moons ago, in what now feels
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Why do people still freak out about the sex lives of gay guys?
I was labeled a sexual threat at the age of five. Nothing’s changed. (Warning, the following article contains graphic gay-sex
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Are the Oscars becoming irrelevant?
With the Academy Award nominations having been announced, and the usual snubs and surprises are being dissected, are awards for
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And just like that, ‘Sex and the City’ woke itself up
My take on the latest Sex and the City reboot. Among the list of things I’ve not had a particular
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I shouldn’t hate saying my age, I shouldn’t have to say it at all
If age is just a number why do we have to tell everybody what it is? Who really needs to
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I’m gay, single, over 50, and have lots of sex…
…If that’s an issue, you might have a problem. I don’t know if it was The Boys in the Band,
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I ignored the younger generation…then I met the Millennials next door
How a chance encounter with my much-younger gay neighbors helped me bridge the gay generation gap. The first time I
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Does getting older as a gay man have to be terrifying?
For queer men of a certain age, marriage and kids were out of reach and many face aging alone. But
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Unlike Cher, I don’t want to turn back time
My thoughts on the joys of aging, and the illusion that things were always better when we were young. After
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