One obese gay man’s take on Brendan Fraser film, The Whale
Congrats to Brendan Fraser’s Best Actor win at last night’s Oscars! In honor of his triumph we have republished this
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Opinion
How social media revived the bitchy queen stereotype
The ‘bitchy queen’ is back. This homophobic and scathing but self-loathing stereotype has risen from the dead thanks to cancel
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Gay men and the eternal search for the next better thing
When it comes to picking a partner, are gay men too superficial or too picky? With Valentine’s Day around the
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Here are the pros and cons of Daniel Craig’s gay Benoit Blanc
Daniel Craig’s Knives Out: Glass Onion character Benoit Blanc is gay. A fact that’s hard to really ignore when the
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This New Year, I’m taking the media out of the social
Social media has all but killed gay social life. You may disagree, but if you’re over 40 you’ll want to
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On becoming a widow: A love story
What happens when your longterm partner dies just days before the Holidays? Here is my story. 1. We were supposed
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Have yourself a filthy little Christmas with John Waters
We couldn’t think of a better way to say Happy Holi-gays and farewell to 2022 than sitting down with the
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Here’s what happened for older gay men in 2022
Looking back on all that happened in the wider culture in 2022, where did things land for gay men of
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Mariah Carey loses trademark bid for “Queen of Christmas”
If you were to ask a random sampling of gays just who the ‘Queen of Christmas’ is, most of them
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My hot take on the gay male beauty myth
This morning started out not much different from the other days of my adult life. I woke up, greeted my
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How Esther Newton made everyone gay
When you find Esther Newton’s page on Wikipedia, she is billed as an anthropologist. Instead of heading off to study
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What’s up with sex for gay men over forty?
With more apps, and more awareness than ever before, dating for gay men has not exactly evolved. With all the
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What the passing of Queen Elizabeth means for LGBTQ folks
As shockwaves go around the world after the passing of British monarch Queen Elizabeth II at the age of 96,
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Is Uncoupled unwatchable? It’s complicated…
If you’ve read any of my previous work, you probably know that I’ve been pretty much screaming from the rooftops
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Gay may finally be in, but queer and trans safe spaces are out
Gay is IN, and seems to have gone mainstream. But what does that mean for queer and trans safe spaces?
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When did gays stop having fun?
If you’ve watched the new Queer As Folk, the third incarnation of the uber-gay TV series, you know there’s a
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Unpacking toxic masculinity in leather and queer spaces
Is there a dark side to marginal queer identity and its cultural spaces? Go to any leather bar in New
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The gay male abandonment issue—mine, that is
The mental and emotional issues gay men deal with go beyond homophobia. Here’s one. I’ve never forgotten the time I
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Pride in the name of less love
Pride season is here and the question has shifted from Do we need Pride to something far more serious. It
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Hey big brand, don’t rainbow wash us this Pride season
For brands looking to form partnerships with LGBTQIA+ creators during Pride month, the difference between a truly authentic and mutually beneficial
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