Facing a milestone birthday? Here’s what I’ve decided
This birthday marks the last year of my fifties. I’m going to…
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Opinion
One obese gay man’s take on Brendan Fraser film, The Whale
Congrats to Brendan Fraser’s Best Actor win at last night’s Oscars! In…
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How social media revived the bitchy queen stereotype
The ‘bitchy queen’ is back. This homophobic and scathing but self-loathing stereotype…
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Here are the pros and cons of Daniel Craig’s gay Benoit Blanc
Daniel Craig’s Knives Out: Glass Onion character Benoit Blanc is gay. A…
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This New Year, I’m taking the media out of the social
Social media has all but killed gay social life. You may disagree,…
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On becoming a widow: A love story
What happens when your longterm partner dies just days before the Holidays?…
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Have yourself a filthy little Christmas with John Waters
We couldn’t think of a better way to say Happy Holi-gays and…
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Here’s what happened for older gay men in 2022
Looking back on all that happened in the wider culture in 2022,…
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Mariah Carey loses trademark bid for “Queen of Christmas”
If you were to ask a random sampling of gays just who…
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My hot take on the gay male beauty myth
This morning started out not much different from the other days of…
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How Esther Newton made everyone gay
When you find Esther Newton’s page on Wikipedia, she is billed as…
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What’s up with sex for gay men over forty?
With more apps, and more awareness than ever before, dating for gay…
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What the passing of Queen Elizabeth means for LGBTQ folks
As shockwaves go around the world after the passing of British monarch…
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Is Uncoupled unwatchable? It’s complicated…
If you’ve read any of my previous work, you probably know that…
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Gay may finally be in, but queer and trans safe spaces are out
Gay is IN, and seems to have gone mainstream. But what does…
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When did gays stop having fun?
If you’ve watched the new Queer As Folk, the third incarnation of…
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Unpacking toxic masculinity in leather and queer spaces
Is there a dark side to marginal queer identity and its cultural…
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The gay male abandonment issue—mine, that is
The mental and emotional issues gay men deal with go beyond homophobia….
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Pride in the name of less love
Pride season is here and the question has shifted from Do we…
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Hey big brand, don’t rainbow wash us this Pride season
For brands looking to form partnerships with LGBTQIA+ creators during Pride month,…
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